If you are the same kind of guy that I am, you have a hard time respecting people who don’t take responsibility for their own lives.
I genuinely struggle to find empathy for people who create their own problems in life and then want to complain about them.
It’s seriously hard for me to link with people who repeatedly make bad decisions and want sympathy for the aftermath, then personally, I would enjoy that people are logical and make educated decisions so the rest of us don’t have to hear their bellyaching when things explode. For instance, recently I was hanging out in the office at work when one of my younger co-workers came rushing into the office bawling like a baby. She was being so dramatic that all of us immediately stopped what my friend and I were doing to listen. When my friend and I finally understood what the problem was, I had a hard time keeping my mouth shut. This boy was crying over his air conditioning at home. Apparently, his central AC system had stopped toiling earlier that day when he was getting ready for work. She said he was unaware of cooling system maintenance appointments, and he did not have a professional Heating, Ventilation, and A/C dealership to call in case of emergency. She was genuinely overwhelmed and had no idea how to survive separate from indoor air temperature control in his house. The afternoons were too hot and humid, and he was convinced that he would roast to death inside of his home. For a minute, I felt exhausting for her. I considered helping his find a heating and cooling specialist to fix his busted AC system. When I talked to his for a few minutes longer, but, my sympathy immediately disappeared. As he began to brag about ignoring his smart temperature control notifications for air filter changes and routine service appointments, I stopped caring about his Heating, Ventilation, and A/C crisis.